Thursday, 19 January 2012

Picking up the Pieces....

(From the Lolo archives)


Picking up the pieces of my broken heart...


In the wake of Lautrec's death...a huge, immeasurable wake, I am now starting to heal. Never will I forget my dear, sweet, funny, gorgeous and delicate love of a boy, but I know that he is pain free now and playing with lots of other kitties who are over on the other side of the Rainbow Bridge. I have a huge collection of photos of Lolo and several little videos...I look at them and it is as if he is still here with me. Of course he is...smack in the middle of my heart and always will be.


I have begun searching for a new Oriental Siamese or even just an Oriental (tricolor or tabby)...I'm addicted to those long lines...long legs, long ears, long nose and long, loud, drawn out meows that I have always loved. 


In my search, I have come across some beautiful cats...parents of future kittens or kittens recently born. I'm just letting my heart lead...and fate. As has it, fate might be working now...we'll see...yesterday I was informed of a cat - no, not a kitten - that needs a home...a 4 year old Oriental Siamese Seal Point neutered boy...a love. I thought about it a lot since I learned the news and want to at least meet him. I will know when I see him and 'chat' with him whether it could be a good 'fit' to bring him into the house of Tiny, Ellwood and Ginger. 


One thought I had in favour of possibly bringing home Mr. President (they boy's name is: Barak Obama...) is that as he is an adult, it might be easier for Tiny to accept him than if I brought home a brand new tiny kitten that might perturb her greatly; making her feel old and unloved. What are your thoughts? Any experience with this? I would really love to hear what anyone has to say and suggestions. I will meet Mr. President tonight.

My husband thinks it isn't a good idea to get a cat that is already 4 years old, but I'm not thinking about this...I thinking about the person he is and about the fact that he is being kicked out of his home (his parents are having marital problems and it seems they blame the cats...???). The timing is good...did fate bring him to me? I don't know, but I do want to meet him and just see/feel how it goes...I wouldn't be obliged to take him, but he would be available if I do want to bring him home. I do believe that if I meet him I will know the answer.


Please, please give me your thoughts on all this. Last night, for the first time, I didn't cry myself to sleep thinking of Lolo...well, I cried, but not bawling tears. I do miss him terribly though.

18 comments:

Punapippuri said...

We think you are right - you'll just know.

And remember if it isn't all peace and harmony to begin with, it does take time to settle and it will never be the same as it was, whatever.

Brian said...

Your heart will know the right choice. Purrs and hugs to you.

Fuzzy Tales said...

We're sending you purrs and universal Light for this. Yes, let your heart and your inner instincts, not your head, guide you for your Highest Good and the Highest Good of all concerned in your family.

(((Hugs))) and good luck.

gypsytoo said...

We've been in the spot of bringing in a kitten on many occasions, and have brought in a full grown cat on two occasions - to a houseful of other cats as well as dogs. The situation that the adult cat comes seemed to determine how they behaved. One was from a foster agency and he lived in a cage, the other adult was a feral who came in after her three kittens. We did have to treat each adult addition differently. The one who came from the cage integrated into the family by feeling safe as long as he could retreat to a carrier with an open door. It took a bit of coaxing over a couple of months for him to feel safe. The feral - we had her spayed and she had to stay indoors for 10 days so that the incisions didn't get wet, so we set her up in a spare room by herself. After a few days, paws appeared under the door and she emerged and blended seamlessly into the family - and never wanted to go outside again. By the way, the stray from the cage was a lilac point siamese, who was 2 years old when we adopted him - and who lived with us for another 18 years.

Your heart will know if it is right.

FURKIDSMOM said...

We think you will know in your heart what is right. Good luck...we'll be purring and praying for you.

The Florida Furkids

Tom, Tama-Chan, Sei-Chan, Bibi-Chan, Gen-Chan, Vidock said...

We left a comment earlier but it seems to have been sucked into a vortex.

We just wanted to say that following your heart is the best thing to do. You will know who is right for you, and when.

Deven said...

An adult cat can be the blessing you never expected to receive. He may be the answer to your aching heart and help to fill the void Lolo left. Tiny would most likely appreciate the lack of kittenhood and bond with him more easily. He may just be the panacea we all hope for in these circumstances. Love and good luck to all of you.

Madi and Mom said...

Cat your heart will tell you what is the right thing to do. Things happen that we cannot question just meet him then go from there. Hopefully is compatible with pups and kittens as you don't want to upset the balance in your home.
Hugs madi and Mom

Sparkle said...

As everyone else has said, I think your heart will tell you what is right. A new kitty always changes the dynamics of the household, and it's not always predictable how best to deal with it.

vic said...

I'm so glad to hear that you are feeling better and not so terribly sad. It's hard to lose a great cat like Lolo but time will help and another siamese could be just the right thing to ease the situation along.

Junior, Orion and Sammy said...

Given Tiny's age, we think an older cat would be better. A kitten would want to play alot and we don't know if Tiny would appreciate that.

We are glad you are feeling a bit better and we keep purring for your hearts to heal more.

Daisy said...

I think Lolo will guide the correct cat to you. Harley was 6 months old when he came to live with me, and he is such a maniac, I hardly have any peace!

Prancer Pie said...

You've been in our thoughts alot lately. We think Lolo probably has alot to do wif this 4 yr old kitteh. Keep us updated please. xoxo and purrs

Meadow said...

I just found out about the loss of your beloved Lolo boy and I wanted to pass on my thoughts and sincere condolences. I lost my baby girl back in June, I completely sympathize with what you are going through.

I ended up getting a new baby a lot sooner then expected, sort of similar to your situation. I thought about it long and hard, but decided there was a reason some things happen like they do. While I was still hurting greatly, it was nice to open my heart to someone new. It was almost like my little girl was sending me someone to help ease the pain.

Cat Chat With Caren And Cody said...

I agree with Brian that "your heart will know the right choice"...

I also agree with you about getting an older cat because I have read the same thing that you said, that if you bring a kitten into a home with an older cat, the older cat gets sad thinking it is being replaced.

Did they say why the couple blames this cat for their bad marriage? You will need to make sure that the cat doesn't have behavior problems (which I know you already know)

You will "know" if this is the "right" cat.....sending you lots and lots of love!

Katnip Lounge said...

Fingers and paws crossed that you will be able to follow your heart to show you the way. Mr. President does sound like a wonderful boy!
Good luck with the meet-n-greet tonight.
*smooches* from the Lounge

Cory said...

You will know. I can't explain it, but you will totally know. The vast majority of our cats found their way to us, arrived in our very own backyard or were rescued from the road, etc. I have on VERY few occasions in my life actually went looking for a cat. This is what happened when I adopted Ellie and Cory.

I have always had a Siamese cat/Siamese mix in my life. First was my heart cat Morgan (love of my life). When she passed away I was a mess, but then we found our Maggie as a stray 3 months later and she quickly became the center of our universe. Such an amazing cat and she helped me heal from losing Morgan. When Maggie tragically passed away from cancer in Nov. 2005 I was once again a mess. I didn't think I would be so lucky as to have another Siamese girl just show up so I started looking. I researched Ragdoll breeders and was on Petfinder and the Humane Society website daily...many times a day. No one interested me. I tried to like what I saw but it was never right.

Until one day I expanded my search and there was Ellie's picture and a description of her that matched what I was looking for. I called right away and met her that weekend. She was nursing 6 kittens at the time and I was in love with her. When 5 of her kittens (the Siamese looking ones) got adopted and her 1 black kitten was still waiting for someone to love her...we were visiting and my husband refused to leave the little one behind. That's how Cory came to live with us. A package deal with her precious momma.

Elllie is my love cat...and Cory is our daughter.

Not sure if this helps, but I know that when I met Ellie I would know and I did. I met lots of other cats and saw lots of other pictures and heard other stories, but I knew it when I saw Ellie. And I was right.

When you meet Mr. President, you'll know. Also whether a cat or a kitten, it doesn't really matter, it's their personality and their connection to you that counts.

Another story...about a dog...when we adopted the dog before Grete, we went to meet a totally different dog. A friend found us the "perfect" dog at the Humane Society. We went to meet her and there was absolutely no connection there. None. That's when our Colby started making a play for us...and we fell for it and we never regretted it.

You'll know. Listen to your heart.

Harry Spotter said...

I am so sorry. You will know when the right one comes along. Or purrs and prayers are with you.